Thursday, 16 May 2013

A good marriage is built on compromise



My friend called me today and is being faced with one of the most difficult decisions she’ll ever have to face in her entire life. I’m not going to go into any details, but it got me thinking about how we make decisions. In our family, we talk over all major decisions at length and make decisions together. The hubs and I usually broach the subject with each other and initially discuss the pros and cons of going one way or the other, and then we’ll let the topic lie for a while before bringing it up again. During this time when we’re not discussing it with each other, both of tend to talk about it our friends and families and get their opinions and insights as well. Then we’ll finally reconvene—each of us having made up our minds individually—and we’ll discuss it again, this time bearing research and external feedback in favor of our position. Usually by this point we’re in agreement, but sometimes one or the other of us will need some extra coaxing. And there’s always compromise.

I don’t know what I would do if I had to make all the decisions on my own. I know that my friend will make the right decision, but I don’t feel for her right now having to do it alone.

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